How to improve self confidence

Every day, in one way or another, people are faced with challenges, and while some are relatively small, others can be quite overwhelming. Therefore the need for confidence is essential if the individual is going to be able to handle these life issues adequately and effectively.

There are several notable signs that clearly show the lack of confidence in an individual, and with some practice, these signs can be used to help the person identify the areas where there is a lack of self-confidence and work towards overcoming this negativity. One of the obvious signs is when the individual if full of excuses as to why he or she should not be considered for a particular task. To make matters worse, when the task encounters problems, the individual would probably be one of the first to bail.

Other signs would include the ever ready excuse given should something go wrong, even if it was accidental. When it comes to confident people, they would just apologize for the mistake and move on. If they decided an explanation should be forth coming, only then, will they extend this courtesy. Otherwise they are confident enough to presume that an apology will suffice.

If an individual is seeking answers for their lack of self-confidence, then the first place to look would be within oneself. Lack of confidence usually stems from deeper issues, such as being consistently told or reminded of the individual’s uselessness, being put down a lot, being laughed at and many other possible and probable negative remarks that are so embedded in the mind, that the individual is unable to function without drawing on and being reminded of this negativity.

Other ways of seeking answers to solve this dilemma of lack of self-confidence would be to listen to as much motivational material as possible. Reading motivational material is also encouraged, as it will help to give the necessary guidance needed to alter the mind-set and perception of things and the people around.

Building self-confidence usually does not happen overnight and takes some practice and concerted effort. The building of self-confidence is done through constant application. As the self-confidence is exercised, it becomes easier and better to exude.

Useful Tips

The following are some tips that can be promptly applied to help an individual boost their self-confidence levels immediately:

• Questioning the worse possible outcome and accepting that it’s not the end of the world.

• Trying new things and achieving some level of success, even if the success is small, will help the individual build self-confidence levels instantly.

• Listening to music that lifts the spirits and inspires the individual to get the task done quickly and efficiently is also another option.

• Making plans and sticking to them even when everyone says it is not doable will help to boost both the outcome and the confidence levels.

• Using meditation to draw on the inner strengths also helps to boost self-confidence instantly. There are methods where the breathing styles help to cause a chemical reaction within the body to give that extra boost.

• Exercising is also a great self confidence booster, as here again the chemical reaction within the body allows it to push limits. Facing fears will also give the individual the inner confidence to overcome challenges.

• Creating something that is useful and compliment drawing will certainly contribute positively to instant elevated self-confidence levels.

• Realizing that past mistakes don’t dictate the individual’s capabilities to venture forth is also another form of boosting self-confidence levels.

• Improving social skills will also help the individual to attract more positive attention, thus contributing to elevated confidence levels.

Speak effectively and confidently

• Practice regularly by picking up conversations with anyone at any time. This will help the individual build up a good base, and thus be able to gauge by the session, the effectiveness of his or her contribution to the conversation.

• Knowing a little about the interest and mental capacity of the listening audience will help the individual gear the conversation topics to ensure their interests and attention span are effectively captured. This is a very important rule to follow, as confident people usually only indulge in topics that they feel will lock in the attention of the listener.

• Using simple words and sentences will be the normal choice for the individual who is confident as they would not want to bore the listener with language skills that are not appreciated. Keeping the information spoken in short and point form sentences will also further display the skills of the confident speaker.

• Being mentally prepared is also another important trait of a person who is able to speak confidently. Armed with the relevant information, the speaker is able to make a confident delivery style that will be evident in both the content of the material being presented and in the demeanour in which is comes across.

• Volume is something that is often overlooked but is no less important when the individual is intending to present information. The vocal volume used should be loud and clear as this will definitely hold the attention of the audience.

Any relationship should ideally have some level of confidence. Without the confidence element, there are usually insecurities that can creep into the relationship and cause the parties to doubt each other and have other negative thoughts and presumptions about the relationship as a whole. Therefore the confidence factor plays an important role in the relationship. Some reasons as to why having confidence or working at incorporating confidence is an important ingredient in any relationship if it is to achieve some level of success:

• Things that contribute to destroying a relationship are not always tangible and from outside sources. They are usually the contribution of the individual who is not very confident, thus allowing negative thoughts and actions to surface in the course of the relationship. Therefore it is not always the circumstances, but usually the mindset of the individual that causes the problem.

• Being physically and mentally fit also allows the individual to have the energy to contribute positively to the relationship. People who take pride in being at the top of their game both mentally and physically are usually well able to provide and exude confidence, and this is an attractive feature to have in the relationship arena. Others are usually hypnotically drawn to such confidence.

• The confidence factor also gives the individual the leeway to have his or her view actively sought after, as in most cases this view point is taken to be highly valued and its content full of positive substance.

Tuning the internal voice will help to build confidence

• Practicing the art of listening to one’s internal voice is something that requires the individual to focus and clear the mind. Being able to have a clear mind will allow the individual to really listen to the inner voice. Meditation is one good way to exercise, as it eventually helps the individual to call on the mindset that facilitates the inner voice.

• Being acutely aware of the body and keeping it in optimum conditions will help the individual to be in a better frame of mind and health. When the body is healthy, the mind is able to explore and tap into the positive energy it exudes, thus making it easier and clearer to connect to the inner voice.

• Learning to tap into the energy that dreams can bring forth will also help the individual to be able to focus on such dreams and the inner voice will keep positive energy surrounding it. Science has over the years been able to prove that constant and almost obsessive thinking of a dream will eventually give the individual the energy and confidence needed to put the dream into reality. There is nothing more powerful than the body and mind which is driven by confidence.

Healthy beliefs also contribute to the eventual success of the individuals who have learned over time to trust their instincts.

Having confidence will surely boost your chances of becoming a success in life. Many people believe that confidence is a sign of intelligence, competency, and self-worth. If you are projecting a negative image of self-confidence others will likely pick up on this with undesired results. Being a success starts with high confidence, and high confidence starts as soon as practice.