How You See Your Life Is Up To You

Our design is our own, life is inquiring and we reply. Do we humbly submit and let life, let those about us, decide where we're going? Do we answer a maybe in response to life in a hushed voice? Or do we remain firm and remain true to our innermost wants; to live a life of merit and fulfillment – a life of responsibility? Ever observed how we straightaway offer a defense when somebody confronts us about our unfit conduct? We've all been guilty of it sometimes and what a finer way to divert that confrontational attention off of ourselves.

―If you believe I behaved badly, you ought to see how she acted!  

―I only betrayed her because she did it to me first.

―You believe our relationship has troubles?

All of us can come up with somebody else to fault or at any rate find somebody else who has some more faults than ourselves to take the heat off and position ourselves in a beneficial light. Making comparisons in this manner seems to be constructed into our DNA. When we consider our own lives, adapting the line I might not be perfect, but I‘m no sorrier than the next individual‘ seems only too familiar but acting badly or in a less suitable way than what we would require from other people, compromises our own integrity.

The thought that we're not as bad‘ as somebody else lets us think that our own actions are hunky-dory and cautiously selecting somebody with whom we can equate ourselves to only gives the backing we need to rationalize this to ourselves. It‘s all really handy right? This sort of conduct lets us skip out on being responsible for ourselves, to carry on acting poorly or to just ‗put our head in the sand about particular matters. If our actions are not as sorry ‘as another person‘s, does that signify we're right? Is it truly just when we perpetrate an act we recognize is wrong, to not anticipate being held responsible for it?

We frequently hurt other people in ways we, ourselves wouldn't enjoy happening to us. As a matter of fact, a few of life's hardest examples can serve as brutal reminders that we have treated somebody in a way we'd detest to be treated ourselves so how come do we do it? How come do we do something if we‘re afraid to face to outcome? A friend once afforded me some of the finest, yet simplest advice I've ever gotten – don‘t be remorseful, just don‘t do it! Its dandy advice that compliments that old adage of Do unto others, how you'd have them do unto you and is a marvelous doctrine to live your life by. Consider it, if you tell yourself this any time you‘re pondering lying to somebody, treating somebody poorly, speaking out of turn or doing something you shouldn't behind another person’s back – and let‘s face it, nine times out of ten you‘re going to get found out, you‘ll never have to be sorry‘ ever again.

If you don‘t do the bad behavior in the first place, you won‘t have the face-off with that individual, there‘ll be no disturbance or judging, no relationship doomed or tarnished and utterly no need to apologize, best of all - your moral sense will always be clean and guilt free. It might be rather an easy way to set about life but it most decidedly works. Regrettably, doing unto other people, how you'd have them do unto you isn't always assured in today‘s society but you are able to at least be responsible for your own actions. Passing off the blame only displays a cowardliness and lack of value for yourself and everybody around you. We're responsible for our own lives. No person is precisely like us; not even an identical twin. Our seeds of joy are our own; our resolves are as unique as our fingerprints. Take responsibility for your own life.

They Are Only Excuses

Excuses can appear unbelievably strong and valid now and again, to the point where we wind up trusting they're absolute truth. But, excuses can not only make us miss out on some opportunities, they really have the mightiness to demolish our lives if we let them. When we continually talk ourselves out of executing matters we wish to do, we produce a mighty downward spiral of diminishing opportunities, dwindling abundance, and decreasing self-regard. Finally we wind up being a hollow shell of the person we may have been. Don‘t let your excuses ruin your life! Excuses are for weak-willed persons who have no want or willingness to grow and develop themselves. They've talked themselves out of making the lives they sincerely want, and they won't budge from where they are today unless a life crisis pushes them to. Is this you? Or would you rather be somebody who pokes fun at limits and faces their fears head on? If you're in the habit of buying into excuses, you likely say things like this:

·         I can‘t . . .

·         I don‘t have the gift . . .

·         I wouldn‘t be substantial enough. .

·         I‘m not young enough . . .

·         I don‘t have any time . . .

·         I don‘t have the income . . .

·         I don‘t have the wits . . .

·         I‘m not adept at . . .

·         It would be too difficult . . .

·         It‘s virtually unimaginable for somebody like me . . .

How many times have you stated things like this? They're excuses, plain and simple. Here‘s the worst thing: even if an excuse really bears some merit, like if you truly don‘t have enough income to go back to school or begin a business – the excuse itself forbids you from even attempting or doing work toward the goal in some manner. Just because you don‘t so far have the income, time, gift, courage, or whatever . . . Doesn't signify you won‘t have it at some later time. Here‘s the beneficial news: if you reject excuses, they abruptly cease to be real. Beginning now, take a good severe look at your own excuses.

Are they actually true, or have you been duping yourself because it appears easier than smashing the fantasy? If you call into question the beliefs you hold about yourself and your potentialities, you may be surprised to learn that you've been held hostage by excuses. But because you defined the excuses, you are able to easily disassemble them too, one step at a time, one defective notion at a time. Once you start executing this even in little ways, you start to acquire greater strength and empowerment within yourself, and your whole life will start to switch and change in marvelous ways.

Once we lay naked our fears, when we analyse them with an honest and brave eye – what we find are not limitations. What we find are excuses. Occasionally these are unconscious. They come from events, revilement, and cruel judgments that we have taken to heart. Without scrutiny, we have let them control our lives. Each person has their unique self-justifications; no one can ever hope to supply a comprehensive list. But remember that excluding extreme conditions, they are just excuses.